This morning I had a D&C suction. They removed the remaining tissue of the baby and cleaned me out so I can heal. The doctor says to take it easy for the weekend and I should be able to resume normal activities on monday.
My body is now finishing out cleaning itself for the next two weeks or so. I should then have a normal cycle 4 weeks after. I am told it is ok to try again at that point. We are pretty sure we will try again at that point.
I have had many questions regarding what happened so I am going to give a brief play as to what happened.
Went for a routine ultrasound to check for any chance of down syndrome yesterday at 12 weeks pregnant. I had many signs I was pregnant and no one suspected anything was wrong. My ob has even said a week prior that he thought I had made it past the critical period.
They did the ultrasound and realized the baby wasn't moving. We didn't, as we could barely see the baby on the screen. The Tech said she had to do a trans-vaginal ultrasound to see the baby better and had me empty my bladder. She said she needed a doc in there when she did those and we just thought it was standard procedure.
We saw the baby very clearly and it wasn't moving but it didn't click yet. The doctor took some measurements and said she had some bad news. The baby had no heartbeat and was measuring at 10 weeks 3 days. Should have been 12 weeks.
They called my ob who called me and said
1. It is a blessing from my body and God because he has sent several of these miscarriages to be tested and always it comes back there was something wrong with the baby. This is nothing I did wrong and just a fluke in how the chromosomes formed. I would have been stuck with a child who was very sick and it wouldn't have been fair to anyone.
2. Due to the fact my body still had not began to get rid of the tissue on its own, it would be best to get the D&C suction, so My body and mind could heal and we could move forward.
3. I have NO higher risk of having a second miscarriage than anyone who hasn't had one. 17% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage. They will watch me much closer next time around, however they can't prevent what is meant to happen.